Clarity. The clearness or lucidity as to perception or understanding; freedom from indistictness or ambiguity. That word, freedom is best part of clarity. Knowing that you are in the right place at the right time and that everything is working out just the way it should. Is there any better feeling than that?
The hardest part is accepting that things will not always go the way we’d like. We won’t always click with our partner, make the big sale or have our work be appreciated by others, but that is an integral part of the process as well. Knowing what we don’t want makes it so much clearer as to what we really do want.
The last time I felt this type of clarity was when I was on my photography retreat. I felt like for the first time in quite some time I was with a group of women that completely understood me and had many of the same goals and dreams. It was clear that I belonged with them and that we had something real to teach each other in the four days that we spent together. I learned things about myself and became so clear on my goals for my life and photography business that I came home with a whole new fire and energy. Then, as time went on things became mucky again. People canceled on me, doubted me, made me feel like I wasn’t good enough or not worthy of their time. This is the way life goes. We have ups and downs. Thrills and disappointments. We are never done, always redefining what we want out of life.
Something that became ever clear to me on my retreat was that I had to, “Do it for me.” I know the feeling of exhilaration that I feel when I am on a shoot and look at the images that I’ve captured for the first time. That is my favorite part of photography. Capturing the art and then reviewing what I have created. It is a personal joy for me that I haven’t found in doing anything else. The joy is not in making a making the final sale (although that can be quite fun as well!) It’s really in the whole process. The fun that I have along the way is everything. I was watching a rerun of Dawson’s Creek the other day and Dawson was feeling discouraged about a project that he was working on that didn’t go the way he had hoped. Joey responded by saying, “It’s not about winning. The joy is in the process.” I loved hearing this affirmation and feel the same way in my own life.
How about you? Are you having fun along the way or are you just trying to reach one big goal or milestone? Are you ok accepting that your goals may change over time? Are there ways that you could have more fun in the process? It’s worth really thinking about…